My recent post on love got me thinking about healthy boundaries. Most people agree that boundaries are necessary to have healthy relationships. But how do we recognize healthy boundaries?
Boundaries are the limits we set in our relationships that allow us to not only respect our uniqueness, but also respect the unique decisions and actions of another. We can set healthy boundaries when we have a good sense of our self-worth. A sense of self-worth makes it possible for us to own our thoughts and feelings, and not take on the thoughts and feelings of others. When we maintain healthy boundaries we don't let someone convince us we are responsible for their well-being. By holding our space, we honor the space of others and allow them to move into their own awareness and grow. Healthy relationships flourish. It feels good to have healthy boundaries. You feel whole.
Boundaries can be flexible allowing for growth. The push and pull of relationships can teach us much about ourselves. They help us take care of ourselves by realizing and setting healthy limits. Boundaries are a demonstration of self-respect and the respect of the other's journey.
Its common for clients to seek a past life regression to better understand current relationships. There are many hurtful and disturbing ways relationships manifest. In searching for meaning behind the action, or lack of action, there tends to be a belief the abusive or hurtful relationship is being carried through lifetimes. There are instances where the subconscious takes the client to a current life, earlier memory, most often in childhood or infancy. Here the client remembers the emotions and recalls feelings and words, and intention. Through this awareness, and by tapping into an inner wisdom, healing can occur.
Recently I worked with a client who wanted to understand dysfunctional family relationships and current health issues. Asking the subconscious to bring my client into the awareness he was seeking, my client regressed to a memory as a baby. He recalled, and most importantly, he could feel (and was surprised by) his mother's love. It was indisputable. We continued through childhood memories until the client came to the realization he was never the focus of his parents anger. He was aware of their bickering and could feel their anger, which he internalized despite not being the focus of it. He became aware of the age when he took all the emotional pain inside and the effect that was having on his body. From that awareness he then regressed to a past life where he served in a spiritual role. While between lives he became aware that he agreed to come into this family so that he could hold space for their opportunity to heal. He was aware his parents had come together to try to move through and resolve repeating patterns of anger. He had become caught up in their problems.
It was the journey through awareness that brought his release and healing -
1) Feeling real love from his mother, before she became too lost in her pain
2) Seeing when he made the decision to internalize the pain, and then being able to forgive his 9 year old self for that decision. And most importantly, feeling that his inner child deserves his love and to be loved by others.
3) Experiencing a life of love and wisdom in an ancient past life. A time where he felt confident and strong.
4) Moving between lives and connecting with his highest self and having a sense of his guides and own inner knowing.
Coming out of trance he was at peace.
**written by Tina Kelly and re-posted from 2015
Tina Kelly is helping people realize their potential to move past blocks and perceived limitations utilizing past life regression, between lives (the bigger picture), and by bringing mindfulness, or present moment awareness to here and now. The moment you presently find yourself in. Through this awareness you make conscious decisions without judgement.